If you asked me this question a year ago I would’ve known I was supposed to say, “strength” but my honest response would’ve been, “weakness.”
Last week I reached out and asked for help and I did it beyond the small, intimate circle that I sometimes let see the “real me”, and if I had more emails, I would’ve done it to an even larger group..
I have always believed asking for help denoted weakness. Yet, the truth is and as I’m learning, is it is one of the most empowering things anyone can do.
Letting down our guards, allowing others to see where and how we need help, may be scary but it is how we – Reclaim Our Power.
When we keep ourselves hidden, shut off portions of ourselves from society, from our friends and family because we believe (or have been taught, most likely) we are supposed to do it on our own – we are only limiting ourselves. We are not allowing those who care for us.. to care for us.
We are not here to be alone. We are here to love and help each other. We are here to grow and learn how to love deeper and unconditionally and that all starts with self-love. Loving ourselves enough to say, “I need help.”
When we put out to the Universe, “I need help” – to whatever degree that may be – the Universe takes that and runs with it. It’s been waiting for us to ask! It won’t intervene with our free will. So, it is in the asking, the admitting, that the flow of receiving begins.
It is when we shut ourselves off from asking that we also unknowingly shut ourselves off from receiving.
I would’ve viewed asking for help a year ago as a failure. I would’ve worried more about what others thought. It’s taken me a while, a few years – to strip away the paradigms, the belief systems, the self-protections I’ve lived by – to allow myself to be more vulnerable and not see that as weak but as actually more powerful – more importantly – more “connected.”
As a Scorpio, asking for help is just not something I do… or at least have done all too well in my life.
My whole life I’ve taken care of myself. I have done it very well. When the going gets tough, I get tougher. I do what I need to do and I get shit done – well.
Maybe it is the Scorpio in me that feels I need to do everything on my own as if proving something to someone. As a society, we have been taught, if it isn’t hard, there must be something wrong with it.
I’m going to let you in on what a voice inside my head says.., “Get in my way and I will fucking crush you.” Not too spiritual of me, is it..? Yet, that is a part of me, a side of me, the incredibly strong force inside me that when I set my mind to something, get out of my way. It. Will. Happen.
That’s probably why I love this scene from the movie “Star Trek Into Darkness” so much by Lieutenant Sulu, “If you test me, you will fail.” And this song from the Biebs, “I’ll Show You.”
You don’t go through and accomplish what I have accomplished in my life by being a shrinking violet.
That inner voice is the side of me that has paid my bills all my life, taken care of me and made sure I was safe, the side that advanced me through my career, picked me up after heartache from unrequited love, and helped me to put one step in front of the other when I did not want to. It is a part of me and a very essential part at that.
Intuitively, I know that embracing my femininity is THE most powerful thing I can do.
We are creators of life – literally. We are beautiful, we are kind, we are giving, and when we allow ourselves to merge that in balance with our masculinity, our power – we can transcend and are transformative.
As a person who loves to help others, I have found it very uncomfortable to allow others to help me… Yet, I personally love the feeling I get when I’m able to help others. We would do well to remind ourselves that just as we enjoy that feeling, others do too.
I’ve learned that not allowing others to do the same for me was actually blocking me from receiving abundance in this world.
We are not meant to be alone on this journey called Life. We are all here to help each other out. We are all connected. What happens to you, happens to me. When you are hurting, I hurt. When you experience joy, I experience joy with you.
I know I am exactly where I need to be. I have not always felt certain in that belief. I may not understand everything about my situation but I have learned that it is all happening for my highest good.
When we let go and go with the flow of the energies of the Universe, we allow for the Divine to steer.
Instead of trying to hold on and control everything – Allow Yourself to Let Go. Keep following guidance and taking one step in front of the other and watch what happens.
No more facade or fronts.
Let your LIGHT shine.
Let your KINDNESS shine.
Let your LOVE shine.
Let your HUMANITY shine.
Let your WHOLE SELF shine.
The more we allow ourselves to Shine. The more we allow ourselves to Receive.
Sending you Love & Light.
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